The things I won't compromise on

Remembering who you are as a singular being in a relationship is a challenge for a lot of people I think. It's hard to not throw yourself full-force into the likes and activities of the significant other in your life and remember to do the things that make you you. My relationship status is, well, complicated. I'm definitely not taken and I'm definitely not feeling single. But I am feeling that spark of something happening. It's all so very exciting and new a feeling I haven't felt in a long long long time, years really.

This is extremely preemptive but I wanted to make a list of the things I am not willing to compromise on. Things that, no matter what, I believe in and I never want to change, no matter if I end up with someone or alone for the rest of my life. I want to make sure I stay true to myself so I can be happy.

Family. I won't again be with someone who doesn't regard their family as one of the most important things in their life. It seems like such an easy, natural thing but I learned that some people just don't value their families like I think they should be valued. That's not to say that we all don't need a break from our families sometimes. But it should be a given that if you've got family close by that you make the attempt to spend time with them on occasion.

Travel. I don't need to travel to far away places for weeks and weeks but I do like to get away for a bit, to escape real life. I want to be able to do that without having to worry about having someone who doesn't want to ever leave the safety bubble they've created. No, I won't drag someone on a vacation again, I need a willing partner.

Laughter. After it's all said and done there's got to be laughter. Lots and lots of laughter. I won't settle for someone with no sense of humor.

My children. If you can't hang with my kids than basically we're done. That's that.

Honesty, integrity and dependability. That's a tall order, except it's really not. Everyone deserves to get the truth, to be able to depend on others and expect others to be true to themselves.

Personal space. I think everyone needs their little bit of personal space to do what makes them happy. I want to always be able to go read a book or have lunch with a girlfriend or even just take a nap. I want to do these things without feeling guilty. I also want to make sure that I can give that personal space without being clingy or needy.

Love. You'd think this would be the easy one. But not for me. Simply put, all I want is someone who loves me for me.

We'll see if anyone's up for such a demanding order...

Comments

[Jennie]

This is a great list. Hold it close to you.

[Jess]

This list is excellent. And I'm excited for your excitement. Glad you're feeling so good!

[TUWABVB]

That's a great list - and I hope you get it all. You deserve it and more.

[Manda]

I have been wondering when you'd spill some beans about this mystery man of yours!! :) Happy for you and can't wait to hear more juicy details about him!
ALSO! This list is great. I am not ALL about the gossip all the time. heh.